Divorce
was relatively infrequent and difficult to get before 1970. Nevertheless, the
different changes in the law and society can demonstrate why the rate of
divorce has increased, and why it may growth more. More often the couple that is
looking for constant perfection from her mate may be created a source of
frustration, instead to perform her relationship. Nevertheless, effective
communication can create a healthy environment for the couple to face their
issues. We also have the lack of fidelity as other tool the evil may use to
erode the family. Elder David B. Haight (1984) said; “I find that too many
people talk right through each other rather than to each other.” He concludes:
“The lack of communication brings on drinking, infidelity or physical or mental
abuse. …“For many, there is a lack of tolerance, an inability to bear
discomfort or to recognize that they’re not perfect and neither is their mate.”
(“Why So Many Marriages Fail,” U.S. News & World Report, 20
July 1981, pp. 53–54.)
Another
point, to consider is sometimes divorce consequence tends to be generational,
like Sister Elaine Walton (2002) said; ´´Research shows that children of
divorced parents suffer in numerous ways, but one of the most profound effects
is the impact on a child’s later marriage. What children see and experience
during the failing marriage of their parents can become part of their view of
themselves and of society.´´ Normally, divorce tends to agitate the whole
family emotionally, spiritually and physically, reduce their harmony, interrupts
the sympathy between the couple, worst may reduce the values and concern from
parents to their children. During this period, the restructuring of family
behaviors may take time; consequently each parent tends to be more concentrated
on their wants and needs. That attitude may increase the possibility to avoid
their children needs and wants. Other point, the consequences that emerge unto divorce are
unlimited, and it can deeply mark the minds of the couple involved, especially
the children. Elder Haight (1984) said; ´´Divorce rarely occurs without immense
emotional, social, and financial upheaval. Most people underestimate the
alienation, bitterness, disruption, and frustration between a divorcing
couples, and among their children, friends, and relatives. Some never adjust to
the resulting emotional consequences.´´ It is why I consider the emotional,
spiritual and physical suffering of divorced people tends to be
incomprehensible. Especially when the bitterness, the resentment still alive
even after the couple separated, nevertheless it may worst for those who have
children. Like President Gordon B. Hinckley (1991) stated; ´´many in this
nation who are lonely, unhappy, insecure, and frustrated which leaves them
struggling to provide for their family.´´
References
Christ of Latter-day Saints General Conference: Retrieved
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Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints General
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